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An interview with experienced American man on Ukraine women differences and dating

We have had a short courtesy interview with Dean Marshall, our respected client for many years who have travelled extensively to Ukraine over past 7 years and is now in a serious relationship with beautiful Alyona from Kharkov, Ukraine. We hope Dean’s little advice will help you to understand the game better and lead to a successful Ukrainian relationship for you.

• Dean, in your opinion, what do Ukraine women look for when they meet a foreign guy?
  First of all, it is not true these girls are looking for an escape or are desperate, as some American men have an idea of. Most of these beauties have ambitions, carrier goals and intensive life at home, and first motive to join an international dating site is curiosity, often a close girlfriend’s experience. At that, they are thinking higher than what you are, they are willing to give you a chance.
• What are your impressions when you first started coming over to Ukraine?
  I was amazed how many beautiful women are in Ukraine. In Kharkov streets, three girls- one man ratios a rule! Then, a 26 year old girl here – she may give you a chance, while in States, it’s not possible. But they are not desperate to get married like we were made to believe, to say it again.
• What are major dating differences in Ukraine and USA?
  Ukraine women as a rule are more reserved than American women. They will show affection, but at a later stage than an average American woman. They would expect you as a man to lead on, take the initiative. Quite often they’d expect you to give her flowers, choose a place for the dinner, or plan for the evening, etc. Make your home work and have a plan A and B for things to do and where to go out.
  
  American women’s character can be bad but her intentions can be good. Here it is the same, they can have met bad guys, so girls here also have bad experiences and now are more cautious. My advice is, slow down, look for the signs of affection - a slight kiss on a cheek for a example a good initial sign, they will let you know. Her way of showing – she wants to see me, she’ll give me a kiss. Shadow of a tree would give you a chance to kiss, etc.
• What are financial aspects of a dating in Ukraine and USA? How to see if Ukrainian girl been sincere?
  In the beginning when you are getting to know each other, don’t give anything to her. Don’t buy her clothing, don’t take her shopping. If she takes you to expensive restaurants, etc, something is wrong. If you are meeting in nice little cafes, she is not asking for much, she’s probably been sincere. If things progress slowly, she may be just cautious. Me and my date Alyona, we are going out every night, we go to nice places, but not to best places.
• Dean, are you always honest in what to tell Ukrainian girls?
  Here you go (laughs). About telling your Ukraine date you are meeting many girls: Morally you are honest. You want to be honest. But it does not work here. Women just do not like this fact when you pronounce it loudly. You have to use white lies. Make her feel she is the only one, the girls are not dumb, but anyway, let her guess. When you are dating one girl already, show her she’s the only one. She’ll feel secure. I show she’s the one. My phone does not ring with other girls’ calls, no text messages. I want her to know she’s the one. But if the girl does not show something to you, does not give something back, then it means the relationship is not developing the right way. You should feel something in return from your Ukraine date. Then, if you make sure it’s no two-way street, you can continue with seeing other girls. In my case, I don’t want to give a chance to be caught up. If she catches me in lies, I loose everything; I have made a decision for myself. Normally I don’t do it. Usually I continue to date trying to get the true connection with one girl, and if it does not work out, I stop and move on to seeing other candidates.
• Why do you keep coming to Kharkov only?
  You don’t need to go to anywhere else, as a matter of fact. You have found the diamond of Ukraine. Kharkov is neither big city nor a too small town, it has all kinds of attractions, beautiful safe city center, lots of beautiful girls, restaurants and living is relatively inexpensive, life is laid back and more relaxed than Kiev, at that due to many Universities you have the most intelligent and beautiful people living here. Green parks, open cafes, discos and entertaining centers, Bezlyudovka sand banks clear water lake with pine-tree forest, many things to do and to entertain.
• Do Ukraine women pay attention to man’s looks and dress?
  Yes they do. Make sure you look good. Iron your shirt, if your shoes are old, buy new shoes. Ukraine is a way fashion country. They look good; they want their man look good. A sharp looking Ukrainian guy, dressed nice, be sure he’s got choice of hundreds of women.
• Dean, have you come across dating scammers in Ukraine?
  I’ve run into a few in my first several visits to Ukraine. Later I’ve learnt how to avoid them. Watch how they talk, what they order at your first date, you’ll feel it if you are being used. Just like at home. Sometimes a girl can be nervous, if it’s her first dates especially. But there is no need to bring her girlfriend to your first date, if it happens to you, it’s a red caution light full stop. What also should give you a red light. Scammers in Ukraine are smart in nowadays. In old days, they would ask for something. Now, their reputation has been gossiped enough, so they are educated, as we are. And scammers, they got to play up a little bit. “I’ve got problems”, “I don’t want to talk about it”. How’s your day – oh, you know... I need 1000 dollars, to pay for my school, my parents’ cannot afford it at the moment. “I have back ache, my doctor says I need massage treatment but I cannot pay for it myself” and etc, etc. Dropping a big hint –“ Can you help me? “ Never follow this trap.
• What are your recommendations for other men who just start Ukraine dating?
  If you build correspondence, then agency would say give flowers to the lady you meet for the first time in person. But I would advice, do it on the second date. If you are really interested in her, then do it. Don’t forget, odd number of flowers. If you make a connection, then do it.
  
  Also, don’t catch a “Ukrainian man” disease. You meet a nice girl, then around the corner, there is even better one. You think you can always do better - you get spoiled. Then the easiest thing to happen is you can lose the real special one. You have to give the girl a chance. Tell yourself, there are tens other beautiful women, but I need to stop. Men here are spoiled, choices are big here in Ukraine. It’s easy for them to ignore one, or two, or three chances, after all these men live here all the time, but do you have this luxury?
  
  Don’t ask a girl on first dates “do you want to live in America”. Especially if you have met her not through an agency, she can get scared and you’d lose the chance even not starting.

OK, good luck to us all, and use your common sense and good spirit in any situation that you may encounter in Ukraine.